What women want?

In all honesty, I do not know. In fact, I am pretty certain that most women do not know what they want. However, we are certain of what we DO NOT want. Which caused this very familiar scene to happen:-

Boyfriend : What do you want to have for dinner?

Girlfriend : Anything/ Up to you.

Boyfriend : Ok, how about Pizza?

Girlfriend : Nah... It is too fattening.

Boyfriend : Ok, how about Japanese?

Girlfriend : Nah... I just had it yesterday.

Boyfriend : What do you want to eat, then?

Girlfriend : Anything/ Up to you.

We all know how that ends, don't we? This is because women often do not know what we want, but we only know what we DON'T WANT. Hence, I am going to tell you guys, what women basically DO NOT WANT. 

1. Women do not want dirty-looking, messy and smelly guys.

If I have said it once, I have definitely said it twice. Appearance is important for first impression. No matter what whoever says, human are definitely attracted to pretty things. No one is attracted to ugly things at first sight. He/She may love your kind heart, smart brains, etc. but the first thing that draws him/her to you is your look. Or else, it would be your wallet. So, dress smart, comb your hair and put some cologne. She will appreciate the effort.

2. Women do not want liars.

If you plan to lie,  always, always, ALWAYS ensure that the truth WILL NEVER, NEVER, NEVER see the light. But there is no way to ensure that the truth would never surface, would it? So, if you plan to keep her, make sure that you tell her the truth.

3. Women do not like insecurity.

Be it emotional or physical, women do not like insecurity. Have you ever gotten into a huge fight with her because you have gotten too comfortable with that girl in the club/at work/in class, etc.? That is because you made her felt insecure. It may not be your fault per se, however, you have indirectly made her feel insecure. What she needs is assurance. And I mean, A LOT of assurance.

4. Women do not like insensitive guys.

Which means, she wouldn't be happy if you are on DotA2/CS/Starcraft while talking or chatting with her. Truth is, women like to talk... A LOT. About EVERYTHING. And ANYTHING! What we need is someone to listen to our rants and an occasional response to show that you care or at least, paid attention or a hug that makes everything feel like it is going to be okay. (FACT : Hugging for 20 seconds releases Oxytocin which makes women trust you) 

{However, if you know me in real life and you try this on me, you will get a kick in the nuts and a punch to your face!}

5. Women do not want to feel like they are not being appreciated.

Have you ever wondered why that pretty girl is dating that guy who looks like a potato and is not rich?(If the guy is rich, you don't have to wonder anymore, don't you?) Whether women like to admit it or not, women are suckers for praises and flattery. But if your flattery is insincere, you may expect a slap to the face. By flattery, I meant, when she dresses up for you, tell her she is beautiful. When she cooks for you, thank her for her efforts. When she goes the distance for you, tell her how much it meant to you.

Sometimes, when she is making a fuss or throwing temper tantrums, that may be because she doesn't feel pretty that day. Or she is having a bad day at work and she wants you to comfort her. Sometimes at a certain day of the month, we turn into a monster and we don't realise it. Or even if we realise it, we can't control it. (btw, saying, "ARE YOU PMS-ING?!!" will ONLY make things worse. It would turn her into a full-grown pissed-off Godzilla!) Sometimes that pain she has to go through is so unbearable and sometimes it makes her feel like she is the ugliest person on earth. I am not saying that it is the guy's duty to sacrifice himself to feed the monster, but what I am saying is, if you love her enough, you would do anything you can to understand what she is going through. Just like how we will never be able to know how much it hurts to get kicked in the nuts, but we understand it hurts. (Technically it is not the same, but you get the gist)

To sum it up, women do not know what they want. But she knows what she doesn't want, and she doesn't want to be unhappy. (Btw, this is for with WOMEN, it does not apply to girls)

Happy Valentine's Day

I'm not celebrating V-day this year because I'm sick and all. But I want to wish couples and singles a very happy Valentine's Day! How are you spending your Valentine's Day? 


Guys, I hope you didn't forget about her Valentine's Day gift. 
Girls, be happy and grateful  for what you have.

Ohai! Long time no see!

Last year, I posted a recipe for V-day dinner preparation. So, this year, it would be for the singles!


Singles, don't be discouraged. If you do not want to spend Valentine's feeling all glum and lonely, this is what you can do :-

1. Take a nice warm bathe (it is therapeutic and relaxing)
2. Read a book while savoring a delicious slice of chocolate cake (chocolate cake warms the heart)
3. Or, enjoy a nice movie (a comedy preferably, have some laughs. Who said singles can't be happy?)
4. Hit the sack early. (besides, this year's V-day is on a weekday. You probably have work/school the next day)

Or, you can go to the cinemas, shopping and karaoke with your other single friends. Maybe arrange a blind double date. (double blind date?) Do something fun! Something you wouldn't usually do. Whatever you do, doNOT spend V-day feeling sorry for yourself. Maybe he/she is just around the corner. But if you are going to be all glum and sorry for yourself, you may not see him/her even if he/she was standing right in front of you! So...

HAPPY V-DAY, EVERYONE!

Dear Guy(s), DO NOT DO THIS IN A CLUB!

Here is a few tips on what you should NOT do in a club!

Scene 1 : 
Guy : "Hi, I'm Kelvin, I think you are FUCKING adorable! What's your name? Where are you from?"

My response : "Hi" *points at both my friends and waves goodbye*

Tip : 

Firstly, there are 2 guy friends standing there, and you didn't bother to introduce yourself to them FIRST! 

Secondly, DO NOT refer me as FUCKING adorable, I FUCKING hate people who says that, you FUCKING numb-nut!

******

Scene 2 : 
Guy :"Hi, are you left-handed?"

Me : *thinks... wtf?* "No!"

Guy : "Well, I'm left-handed, that makes me special and you're not... Hi, I'm Alex, you are from?"

Me : "Penang! *waves and smiles politely and points at friends"

Guy : "Oh, are they your friends? Why don't you introduce me?"

Me : "This is Jim, this is BB"

Guy : *shakes hand with Jim and BB* "So, what's your name?"

Me : "Cher"

Guy : "With the S or C?"

Me : "With the C" *smiles and waves goodbye*

Tip :

WTH is wrong with you?! "I'm special and you're not"? 
Is that even a pick-up line? 

But, at least you had the courtesy to be-friend my friends.

*urgh, I hate guys with the name "Alex"*

******

Scene 3: 
*creep keeps dancing closer and closer*

Me : *almost went behind the bar*

Creep : "Don't be afraid of me"

Me : *awkward smile and thinks, yeah, right, you creep* "I'm not used to strangers!"

Creep : "Where are your friends?"

Me : "Toilet! They'll be back soon!"

*friend comes back*

Me : "These are my friends, kthxbai!"

Tip : 
Firstly, you act like a creep, you didn't introduce yourself, and your first word is "Don't be afraid of me"?

Yeah, right... creep...

******

Scene 4 : 

Bartender : "Hi, where are you from?"

Me : "Penang!"

Bartender : "Batu Ferringhi?"

Me : "No! It's more in the rural areas, outskirts, I don't think you know"

Bartender : "I'm from Perlis, I know!"

Me : *crappity crap! Busted! Changes topic* "So, you stay here now?"

Bartender : "Yeah, for 2 years!"

Me : "Cool..."

Tip : 
Bartender was sweet, but please, do not ask where am I from, I am afraid of stalkers. Ask where do I school, ask if I enjoy the music, make small talks first!

On the side note : The bartender was nice enough to treat me a drink... ;D

******

Each time a guy approaches me, my friends kept asking the same question, "Is that your friend?"

Heck, no! But, here is an applause for dumb bravery. *claps*

P/S : If you are reading this, please do not fall for me, I do not want to hurt you again. I'm not ready for a relationship. I am so so sorry.

Easy Lazy Pork Chop

I was sleeping halfway, when I realized that I have not posted this recipe. So, here I am, writing a recipe... of pork chops... instead of sleeping... So that people like you, can buy ingredients early in the morning... *yawn*

Ingredients:-

• 500g minced pork chop (or according to how much you want to eat, or just ask the selfish, I mean sell pork-er?... how much is needed for two persons)
• a can of button mushrooms (or other pricey button mushrooms)
• onions
• garlic
• oyster sauce
• corn flour
• 1 egg (beaten) - fuhhh...!! Sound like a cookbook
   writer...
• broccoli
• frozen fries

Step 1 : Marinating the pork:-
Put the following into a bowl :-

• FINELY(if you do not like garlic, like me, make sure you chop them finely until you can no longer see them unless you are using a microscope) chopped garlic- 1 clove, 
• chopped onions- approximately 1 hugeass onion size is enough...
• the egg which was brutally beaten up by you
• a tablespoon of cornflour
• a tablespoon of oyster sauce

and mix with the pork... And leave it for few hours... Maybe 2? =S
(Make sure the minced pork can stick together so that it will be in 1 piece when you fry it...If it is wet and soggy, add cornflour or add more pork)


Step 2 : Frying the pork

• Put butter into the frying pan (use slow fire, so that the butter won't get burnt)
• Equally divide the amount of pork chop
• Put half of the pork chop into the pan (make it stick together...either in a oblong shape like what you usually have in restaurants or in a HEART SHAPE)
• Fry the pork until BROWNISH

Step 3 : Preparing sauce

• Put butter into the frying pan (use slow fire, so that the butter won't get burnt)
• Put thinly sliced button mushroom into pan (as thin as you usually eat in restaurants)
• Put SLICED onions (Previously, you are supposed to use
  CHOPPED ONIONS. But for the sauce, use SLICED onions - and the amount of onions is...whatever amount you like)
• Mix a bowl of water with a teaspoon of cornflour and a tablespoon of oyster sauce
• Once the button mushrooms are brownish, (I said BROWNISH, NOT BLACKISH, ok?), pour the bowl of mixture consisting cornflour, water and oyster sauce

If the sauce is not thick enough, add cornflour. If not salty enough, put oyster sauce. If not enough sauce, add water. 

Side dishes : Fries & Broccoli

How to prepare broccoli :-

(assuming I do not need to prepare "HOW TO FRY FRIES")

• Boil broccoli until it is cook (which means it is in a nice bright
  green colour and soft to chew)
• Take the broccoli out of the hot water
• Mix broccoli with butter while broccoli is still hot

SERVE:

• Put the fried pork on the plate
• Pour sauce over pork
• Put fries at the side
• Put broccoli at the side
• SERVE!

EXTRA STUFFS:

• Add a can of Campbell's Mushroom soup, and you'll have another dish... ;D

• Why can't I give exact quantities? - because I learn cooking by "Trial & Error", not by following recipe books... I add whatever I want and how much I want...
• Why do I use minced pork?  - because there is no tenderizing needed! Which means, less work!
• Why put garlic & onions if I don't like it? - garlic & onions somehow is the best & cheapest way to make food smell nice... AND eliminate bad pork smell (especially if you bought an old pork from the dishonest sell pork-er)
• Why put oyster sauce? - because you can use oyster sauce in ANY other dishes... You can buy "Worcestershire sauce" or "Lea &Perrins" which smells a lot more fragrant, but if you RARELY cook, what's the point in buying?

HAVE A LOVELY VALENTINE'S DAY!

Trick Of the Day

Have you ever been in a situation where your girlfriend is giving you the cold shoulder and you don't even know what happened???

This happens to guys all the time. Girlfriends usually want you to find out what you did that upsets her, and make up for it, to show that you care for her.

Trick :

• Trace all recent activities. 

(e.g. Were you home late? Did you hang out with a group of girls which you "accidentally" forgot to tell her? Did you forget your anniversary? ...etc...)



Guys, being guys, always the forgetful one, it is possible that you could not remember what you did that could possibly upset her, continue reading...

• Buy a gift and surprise her

(The chances of you forgetting your anniversary, celebration are HIGH because you're a guy. Besides, she could interpret it as an apology gift, replacement gift, etc.)

• Apologize, ask if it upsets her very much, say that you would not repeat the same mistake

(This gives you the insight of what you have done/going to do which upsets/going to upset her :- girls have psychic abilities =S )




If she is still upset/angry/cold, and you still don't know what is the issue, you are in BIG TROUBLE!
And it probably has something to do with the girl you recently met/talked to... 

in that case, you're F**Ked...


Good Luck! ;D

This Is For The Guys...

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Just kidding...I am not that lame... Actually this post is for guys who are currently going after someone...This is what you should NOT do...

1. DO NOT buy expensive stuffs as gifts 

{She is NOT your girlfriend-yet! If she likes you, small gifts are enough to make her happy, if she don't like you, you are wasting your time AND money.

Secondly, if you buy her expensive gifts when she was not your girlfriend yet, she will expected you to buy MORE EXPENSIVE gifts when she IS your girlfriend}

2. DO NOT wear your heart on your sleeves

{ Do not let her know that you like her TOO MUCH as this will be a disadvantage to you. Just let her know that you sincerely like her but NOT AS MUCH to give your life for her, as I said, she is NOT your girlfriend -YET

If she knows that you can't live without her, she might play HARDER to get and make you wait longer or even use you for her convenience}

3. DO NOT wait around for her call

{ Go out with your friends, hang out, have fun. DON'T let her think that you will be there the minute she calls. She might assume you are a boring person and has no life of your own.

Secondly, it makes you look desperate. REMEMBER : NOT your girlfriend YET}

4. DO NOT call/sms/msn 24/7

{ You will make her feel suffocated and/or irritated.

IF she LIKES you, you just made her sick of you.

IF she did NOT like you, you just made her hate you and she would avoid you like plague}

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This is one way, it is basically a reverse-psychology method to get that girl...You should...

- Call her everyday, but only short talks like - "How is your day?", etc

- If the conversation gets too long, cut it short and say you have something else to do

- Do this for a week or so, and on the 11th day, stop calling altogether

- No sms, no calls, no facebook, just avoid her, but act like nothing happened

She would be thinking about you, and/or what happened between you and her which makes her miss the conversations you and her used to have...

and WALLA!! She might just give you a call and ask what is going on, and then you tell her that you can't be close to her anymore cause your heart couldn't take it anymore.

Obviously, she must know you are interested in her before you apply this "OPERATION PSYCH-HER" and she must have SOME interest in you. If she hates you...then...she might not even answer your calls...

GOOD LUCK!! =D

*round 1*...FIGHT!!

To be honest, I can't remember when was the last time I fought with Max. It was probably a year ago.

*feel like picking a fight with him*

Just kidding.

Fighting or being in an argument is not all that bad. But make sure that when you have an argument, both sides have a chance to talk, like a debate. Express it all out. Fight like wolves. The point is, both sides have a chance to say how they feel. And both sides win. (Actually there is no win or lose, it is just that everyone wants to be happy with their partner, yes?)

For example, Max and I really fight when we fight. That is how I understand how he feels, and he understands what I want and vice versa. And no more arguing about the same matter anymore, because both already said what is needed to be said.

For some people, they are afraid of arguments, so they try to avoid it. But does avoiding help? NO. In fact, when an issue comes up, solve it by talking, discussing, shouting, hitting, farting, burping, etc. Anything to express yourself. (Don't hit so hard until it becomes an abuse lah, maybe just a pat or something, to make them pay attention)

Why?

Because if you leave the issue halfway, it will certainly, positively, ABSOLUTELY RESURFACE! Then, you have to go through the same process again and again, arguing over the same matter, the same issue, the same topic and at the same time, new issues pop up. So, it will be a never ending argument anyway. So, why not solve the issue whenever it comes up? Bury the issue deep down and never mention it again.

Or would you rather argue about the same issue every week? The choice is yours.

But of course, there a some people who just don't understand human language. I have personally met some of these people.

example :

Me : Why don't you tell him you care? I mean, you care about him, right?

Human : Yes, I know. I don't know.

Me : What do you mean you know, you don't know?

Human : I care. I don't know.

Me : You mean you don't know how to tell him? Or what?

Human : No, I know. But he is a guy. I am a girl.

Me : Huh?? But he already told you he cared right? So what is wrong if you did the same?

Human : Because elephant is mammal and very big. Because he is a guy, I am a girl. I think we are going to celebrate somewhere nice this year.

Me : What? I mean that's not even the topic... ...zzz

*see...so random, and out of topic...gets on my nerve talking to someone like this!*

It is really difficult to talk to them, but it all comes back to how much you know/understand them. If you know/understand them, I am sure you know the way to get the message through.

♥♥♥ LOVE ♥♥♥

This is such a wonderful story, that I had to post it.

For those of you who could not understand cantonese, here is the story.

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It does not matter how long a person lives, but it is how a person live life to the fullest.

But how?

How do we live life to the fullest???

There was an island, which lived Happiness, Sorrow and LOVE. There were also other emotions living there as well.

One day, they received news from all over the place stating that the island is about to sink. So, everyone on the island decided to build a boat, preparing to leave. Except...LOVE. It insists on remaining on the island until the very end. After a few days, the island began to sink, LOVE had no choice but to leave. Coincidently, Wealth which was in a yatch passed by. LOVE asked, "Wealth, could you give me a lift?" Wealth said, "I'm sorry, there is no place for you as I am transporting many treasures and gold."

Then, LOVE saw Vanity on a beautiful ship, sun-bathing. And so, LOVE asked, "Vanity, can you give me a hand?" Vanity replied, "You are all wet, won't you dirty my ship? I think better not."

Then, LOVE met Sorrow. So LOVE asked, "Sorrow, please bring me away." Sorrow sighed, "I am too sorrowful, I want to be alone, please leave me alone." And Sorrow just left soon after.

Moments later, Happiness passed by. But because Happiness was in such a joyful moment, it did not even notice LOVE's cry for help.

Suddenly, there was the sound of a ship's horn. "LOVE, come over here, I will ship you away." LOVE was so happy that it forgot to ask what was the saint's name. Right after LOVE reached a safe ground, this saint had already left. LOVE was so thankful and so it asked Wisdom, "Hmm, who was the saint who lent me a hand?" Wisdom replied, "It was Time."

Time? Why would it want to help me? Wisdom smile and said, "Because, only Time could understand how great LOVE is."

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Usually when we have it all, it easy to get lost. Because when we have more than we ever wished for, we tend to take things for granted.

But when we are in despair, we would assume that there is nothing left. No hope, no joy, no life. Other people's care and kindness are often unnoticed.

Then, time and only time could change everything. Only true LOVE could withstand the challenges of time.

This is why, a person is said to have lived life to the fullest when they had experienced LOVE.

Weird Things II

This time, it is about boys...


Specimen A : Boy who said he loves you but calls you a cheap b***h when you KINDLY declined his offer.


Specimen B : Boy who said he loves you but goes out with another girl.(I guess he meant he love girlS)


Specimen C : Boy who said he loves you but gives you away to his "BESTFRIEND"(Heng dai for life, huh?) pffft.


Specimen D : Boy who said he loves you but you have to change to someone else which is SO not you.


Specimen E : Boy who said he loves you AND he really loves you. RARE!
(This is for keeps)


Boys are much more predictable than girls. They are less-complicated, does not have PMS and does not need to come with a manuals.


But girls...


One minute they could be your bestfriend, then the next, steps on your back, throws you in a pit filled with deadly snakes, grins and steals walks away with your guy(She don't have to steal anymore because you're already dead). Just kidding...


But SERIOUSLY!

NEVER EVER MESS WITH A GIRL.
(They're the deadliest species known to mankind)

Weird Things...

I mean girls...weird girls...

Specimen A : Girl who professes to you(knowing you had a girlfriend) but then break up with you after a week.

Specimen B : Girl who would be nice to everyone who buys her gifts. Nice as in...really nice...almost too nice...that kind of nice.

Specimen C : Girl who pretends to be single and avoid any question relating her relationship status.

Specimen D : Girl who so-calls love you but was too afraid to continue the relationship after 2 years.

Specimen E : Girl who so-calls love you but is willing to share you with another girl..."Generous" hor?

Specimen F : Girl who parades her "kindness" for everyone to see, but does nothing without you knowing how "kind" she is.

Specimen G : Girl who is willing to see her own boyfriend going out with 2 other girls...so kind to share

Specimen H : Girl who so-calls loves you but spread false rumor about you.

Specimen I : Girl who blames other girl when the guy they like does not respond to them.

Specimen J : Girl who pretends to be a friend but stabs you in the back.

Seriously, girls are dangerous specimens.
I am not saying all of them are like that. But MOST of them are.

Love Game... (no, not Lady Gaga's song)

Here is a simple love-trust-game. You can pass the time playing this game while traveling in the train with your girlfriend/boyfriend, or when you are waiting for friends. Also, you can get to know more about him/her and it is fun.
Each must have a piece of paper and a pen.

1. Boy ask girl (or girl ask boy also can) a question
(e.g : How many children you wish to have in the future?)

2. Both must write down the answer on the paper ( to avoid any change of mind or to "adjust the answer so that it matches each other's answer)
(e.g : Boy's answer: 2, Girl's answer: 3)

3. Compare the answer. And understand each other more by asking what is the reason for that choice.
(e.g : Why you want 3 children, it is in odd numbers...etc etc)

4. Take turns to ask the question, but BOTH must write down the answers.

Why is this game helpful?
> You can get to know your partner more without making him/her feel like a criminal (by constantly interrogating your partner, he/she will feel that you do not trust them)

> You can ask anything you want to know but was not sure how to ask ( e.g about something sensitive or the past)

> Unable to cheat because the answers are written down before comparing the answers. ( People tend to "adjust" their answers to their partners' answers because it makes them feel closer, but this widens the gap among couples because it is not the truth)

> Some questions or answers might be funny and then you get to laugh and have fun. ( That is what LOVE is right? It is about sharing laughs with your special someone)

Don't judge a book by it's cover... Don't judge a girl by her appearance...

PART II

I missed out a part about Z who told J that L tried to rape her( if the guy tries to rape you, and you're still with the guy? Unless you enjoy being raped!- don't take everyone for an idiot just because L is an idiot). J was trying to be a friend, gave her some advice, which was the cause of the nuisance(it was when Z started professing to J). After J asked Z to choose between him and L, Z said she loved both and she wanted both of them. I was furious. How can she say that?! How is it possible for a heart to love TWO person at once?! After that, J kept pressuring Z to make her choice. Finally, J's girlfriend could not stand Z anymore, went to look for Z at her house(together with J). Then, J's girlfriend asked what is the matter with her? What is her problem?

Z was smart enough to call L for help(probably because she knew L was a dumb@$$??). Anyway, L arrived at Z place being furious and kept protecting her(bluedy dumb@$$!). He said that he can hate everyone but not Z. And he called me, asking why didn't I call off "THE TEST"??(*remember!* HE AGREED TO TEST Z) He only said he did not want to pretend to be J and ask her questions but he DID NOT say that he did not want to test her. Everything was such a mess. J was angry with me(because of the test tingy). And after all the trouble she caused, Z manage to LAUGH! With her sly wicked grin of a devil's pawn. However, Z and L was still together. J and his girlfriend did not hear from Z again.

happy ending...

uh...? NO WAY!!

A few weeks after that, Z messaged J and asked him to be "FRIENDS". And then, Z and L was no longer together. Z moved on... guess with who?? (obviously another dumb@$$-lah!!) The guy was L's CLOSE FRIEND!!!! Why is the guy a dumb@$$? Firstly, he goes out with his CLOSE FRIEND'S old worn-out shoe(ex-girlfriend). Secondly, he ignored ALL the advice from his friend(excluding me, I don't know him well, but I sure do know that he is an idiot). After a few months, Z left that idiot for God-knows-who. And those TWO dumb@$$e$ can blame themselves for their loss!

the end...

Oh,wait... The moral of the story is : DON'T BE LIKE THOSE TWO DUMB@$$E$!! and DON'T JUDGE A GIRL BY HER LOOKS... :)

Don't judge a book by it's cover... Don't judge a girl by her appearance...

I've met girls who looked innocent, quiet and sweet but deep down, is filled with evil which is comparable with the devil's pawns(maybe they are the devil's pawns afterall). Girls who would do anything to break up other people's relationship, girls who would offer anything just to win or show that they are superior, girls who spoil the name of love. These girls gives me the creeps because you can never know what are they up to or their motives. Let's just say I've met some of them, and this story is about one of them.

A new girl,Z has been transfered from another state to our school. She looks pretty and innocent(or pretty innocent, I should say...). However, the first day I met her, I did not like her at all. I could not explain why but I just didn't like her. And I felt guilty because she did not do anything to me. At the end of the year, she and a friend of mine,L (whom I've known for 13 years) started seeing each other. Everyone was so happy to see the new couple, including me.

However, this love story did not last. L was having problems with Z's ex-boyfriend. According to Z, the ex-boyfriend would not leave her alone. And Z just simply left the sh*t behind for L to pick. So, L called her ex-boyfriend,ya da ya da and solved the problem. A couple of weeks later, another problem came up. My friend, J's girlfriend told me that Z confessed that she has feelings for J. So, J's girlfriend asked for my help. I talked to J and realised that J does not have feelings for Z, so I advised J to stop contacting Z to save his relationship(J really loved his girlfriend). The next day, J told me that Z would not stop contacting him, repeatedly telling him how much she loved him. So I have no choice but to tell L. I was surprised when L told me that he knew about Z and J. But he was told a different story. He was told J would not stop telling Z that he loved her, and Z being the "nice" girl did not want to ruin the friendship, decided to keep quiet. I showed L the messages Z had sent to J. And asked L if it is alright to test Z. AND HE AGREED!(remember that he agreed to test Z, which I would explain later as to why it is important to remember this)

The next few days, Z still kept contacting J. So, I borrowed J's phone to let L message or ask Z anything he want to know by pretending to be J. After thinking for awhile, he said he did not want to betray her by not trusting her. I was stunned. How could someone be so stupid after knowing that his girlfriend is flirting with SOMEONE ELSE'S BOYFRIEND??!! By doing so, he is not only indirectly encouraging her to cheat, and break up other people's relationship but also tarnish the name of LOVE!!! This is not LOVE! This is you being afraid to be left alone! LOVE IS NOT MEANT TO BE SHARED WITH ANOTHER PEOPLE BUT WITH EACH OTHER! I was so pissed. So, I told J to test Z by asking her to choose between J and L(with J's girlfriend's approval).




......to be continued......