Is It Worth It?

Last week, a friend of mine told me about his problems. Funny, I found it ironic that someone would come for me for advice considering what a mess I am in. But then again, I am unsure if this is normal for guys or its a guy thing.

My friend asks me about, what do you think about "Love"? 

And since I have been talking about unconditional love lately, that was the exact same thing I told him. Love does not just disappear. You may "like" that person and once that person changes, the "like" may disappear. But it is not the case for "Love". There is no reason for "Love". It is just there. 

Even a woman in an abusive relationship may leave her husband, but the "love" may never disappear. It may turn into "Hate" but that is because "Love" is still there. If "love" is not there, there is no "hate", just an empty feeling, nothingness. 

And his response was, "I don't miss her. At all. I just want to break up with her". Immediately, I responded, "That is the easiest way out. Running away from everything. And the most cowardly".

Apparently, his trust for his girlfriend was broken when he caught her texting another guy. When he confronted her, she deleted the messages instead of showing it to him and/or explaining that they were just friends. He realised that he could no longer trust her. 

My advice to him was to take a break and think everything thoroughly. Because of his suppressed anger inside (although he kept denying and saying that he doesn't feel anything), but anger clouds our judgment. We kept telling ourselves that we don't feel anything, this is the end of it because we are all humans and we are afraid of getting hurt. 

Throughout our entire conversation, he kept telling me that he doesn't love her, he cares about her but he doesn't love her anymore. I asked him, "Were you happy with her? Since this is your first girlfriend after being single for 7-8 years?". He nodded.

I asked, "Is that not worth fighting for?". He kept silent.

Today, he thanked me for my advice, and that is the satisfaction I get from helping other people. Most people gives advice not knowing the other side of the story. Most people don't even know the full picture.

#1

#2

I know, you MAY have been in the same situation. But with 7 billion people in the world, I assure you, there is no 2 person in the world who could be exactly alike. Not even twins. How could you advise based on your own experience when other people are in a different relationship?


"Nothing easy is ever worth having. Something worth having, is never easy"

The Single Life

Or more commonly known on the web as forever... alone...

Is it really that bad though? A cute baby elephant recently asked me, you have been single for quite some time now... How long exactly? A year? What do you feel about being single?...

Honestly, this is the longest I have been single, yet I don't feel single. It has been more than a year, in fact, it is almost 2 years. But I have never been happier than when I was in a relationship. There is really such a thing as loving someone so much it literally hurts. I used to cry a lot. On some days, I don't even want to get out of bed. I hurt myself. It was just, that bad. Not that the relationship was bad, it's just that, he was everything and I was nothing. Not even to myself.

A very close friend, Pigupig, he was the only one who saw through me despite my strong facade. When I broke up with Max, he came back from London. He said, he wanted to check on me. He wanted to know how I was doing. But since I "seem" so strong, he is relieved. He told me not to do anything stupid before he come back the next time or he would be really disappointed in me. I really appreciated it at that time, because I really needed it. Just when everyone thought my heart was made of ice, he was the only one who knew how hard I was struggling.

He came back last year and recently, he told me that I don't have to act so strong all the time, just be myself. Well, the truth is, I have adapted so well to being alone that I no longer know how to be myself. Luckily for me, I have all the best friends in the world. I am also grateful that there is someone who can understand me so well. I can just let him decide anything or everything for me, and it would have been what I would have decided for myself. It is almost unbelievable.

I wake up everyday feeling happy. I go to bed with all smiles. Even when I was so busy with work, I would still smile thinking about all the stupid nonsense my friends had whatsapp-ed me. I would receive some random singing, goats meh-ing, people acting cute... Even when the day is going bad, it gets better. In fact, I can't remember when was the last time anything got bad.

If you asked me, I would say I want to remain like this for as long as I could. I do not want anything to change. I am blissfully grateful. Plus, I get to sit in front of the computer playing DotA2 every other weekend from morning til night and there is someone special to feed me like the fat ass I am. Bliss!

Long ass story - Tae Yang

This is what I've been up to for the past year. 


There's this guy who shares the same birthday as Tae Yang (from Big Bang) or to those who are unfamiliar with K-pop, would probably know him as the guy from "Wedding Dress". If you are close to me, you would know that Tae Yang is my ideal man out of all the members.


Anyway, this guy, I shall call him Jae Yang, has known me since we were 12 years old. 

*they share the same smile too*

Short-version-even-though-it-is-still-so-oh-so-effing-long : 
Lost contact for 4-5 years. Met again when we were 18. Started texting me everyday after I broke up with my ex-boyfriend. Mentioned a couple of times that we should date because I "owe" him. He is the sweetest guy ever. Offers to buy flowers, opens the door for you, basically, you'd just feel safe and appreciated with him. Asked me out for dinner on valentines day. Asked me out for movies, dinner, etc. Offers to carry my heels after it broke off. Makes me laugh all the time. He never fails to wish me good morning everyday at 8.30am. 


You would think he likes me, wouldn't you?


Well, you're wrong. Kind of. He stopped the morning greeting routine. He told me, he likes this girl who looks like angel but he doesn't like girls who look like angel only normal girls. (Confusing, I know). Then after that, he says that he doesn't have anyone in mind. Says that everything that is effed up with him is totally my fault. Says that I'm the coolest lame girl. (I don't even know what does that mean). Asks him if he's angry, he'd say, "No, just lazy to reply". 


But then again, he said he loves me. Twice. On two different occasions. Being drunk. I would think that he's just talking to his beer if it wasn't because he got my name right. He asked me to help with his assignment and then said that we wouldn't be able to finish it in a day, and asked if we could meet everyday. (He wasn't drunk when he said this. Or at least I think he wasn't. Hmmm...). He used to be so shy around me that he couldn't even talk to me on the phone. But recently, he has been patting my head every time we meet. Or poking my knee when I ignored him. He uses my Chinese name a lot. Even my closest friends do not use my Chinese name. In fact, NO ONE ever uses my Chinese name. Why is that? O.o


Why am I babbling on and on about this guy? Well, regardless of his mood swings and his temper tantrum, he is the one putting a smile on my face no matter how bad my day was. His peculiar behavior intrigues me, confuses me, yet, he is the one there for me when I'm having the worst day ever. And most recently, he was pissed at me (Well, he is pissed at me most of the time). I asked him if he wanted dinner, and he thought I asked another guy for dinner before he could even reply.

*I is innocent desu-ne*

Sorry, but I want you back

This is a true story ...
(as every story posted, duh!)








A friend of mine, let's call him, Joker. Had a huge fight with his girlfriend, resulting to a break-up. Girlfriend puts down her pride and apologises to him, asking for him to give their relationship another chance. Joker accepts. The next day, another argument came up. And Joker decides that he needs a break from all these arguments.
(emphasis on "a break from all these arguments")


Joker persuades girlfriend to pursue a degree while having a break from each other, assuring her that he won't be with another.


After a month, this Joker got together with ANOTHER girl. 


When I asked him, he tried dismissing the topic by either avoiding or changing the topic. After another month, this Joker texted me, asking, "How to tell someone that you still love her?".





Couldn't stop laughing.


Anyway...

How do you get her back?
Answer : A whole lot of patience. Respecting her space and understanding her needs. She'll probably get you back for all the hurt and pain, drain your wallet, take up your time, but in the end, if she still loves you, she'll be back in your arms. Besides, you have swept her off her feet before. But it is going to take A WHOLE LOT, and I mean A WHOLE LOT of patience.

Motto!! もっと！！

Motto means MORE!!!


Everyone wants more!!!

Here is a true story:
Guy goes to work and occasionally finishes work around 7pm or 8pm, yet he never fails to accompany his girlfriend EVERYDAY!! but... the girlfriend wants him to accompany her MORE!! How much more? I do not know...


My Story : Did not meet boyfriend for 5 months because he chose to go for holiday with his friends; TWICE! Because boyfriend wants to play MORE!!

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Guy brings girlfriend for sushi king 3 days in a row ($100+ each meal), buys a $1000+ handbag, frequently buys flower... but... the girlfriend says he rather spend money on his car rather than her... She wants MORE!! How much more? I do not know...


My Story : Occasionally, we go Dutch (a.k.a "AA" style). Occasionally, I pay. But I spend on him for his birthdays is MORE than what I spend on myself. Because neither of us are working yet. And because he is spending too much. NOT on me, but on himself.


People ALWAYS take things for granted... People always wants MORE!!!! Please wake up, silly girls. You don't know how lucky you are.
And I really HATE people who ASSUMES that I am a pampered, bratty girlfriend because my boyfriend buys me everything I want, HE DOESN'T. I buy my OWN clothes, my OWN shoes, my OWN gadgets with my puny allowances, can? Keep your mouth shut, if you know nuts!

This is what I call LOVE...

Short Message~
To: [kaWan baik L1m ah bI] ,21... 


You mentioned, puppy love, but you did not mention whether the girl is your girlfriend, or your best friend, or just  an acquaintance.
Due to lack of information, I can not really give much advise. I can only say that, it does not matter what your friends think, it does not matter what people say, if you think she is the right one for you, then I think you should go for it. =D
P/S : You can key in your email in the chatbox, as no one will be able to see it except me... Hope to hear from you soon.
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Rob is from a mixed racial background, Ann is Chinese. Back in the days, interracial relationships are often discouraged. When Rob and Ann go on a date, Ann has to be worried about facing her mother who was strongly against their relationship. Whenever Ann came back from her date with Rob, her mother would beat her up with a thick cane, ones which were thicker than those made into a tongkat (walking stick made of cane).

They continued being together despite all the objections. But, the beating never stopped. This went on for few years. And finally, Rob couldn't take it, he couldn't bear seeing Ann getting hurt and so, they broke up.

After 30 over years, they were never married. Rob stayed near Ann's house and cycles past her house EVERYDAY. Until last year. Because Rob passed away last year. I can honestly say that I DO NOT KNOW how Ann feels now, but I can tell you, being parted for 30 over years and yet, remained loyal and faithful is what I call true LOVE. They had no sweet talks, commitment, and yet, their love remains. I couldn't imagine how tough it is for them, because I have not experienced such thing. But I can only hope that they will find each other in heaven.

The next thing I want to say is, I HAVE KNOWN ROB & ANN MY WHOLE LIFE! And I never knew about their story until Rob passed away! And I thought they were just acquaintances. But, when I was told of this story, I felt a sting in my heart. I complained too much, expected too much, while there were others who wasn't given a chance to be together despite the depths of their love for each other, is just... heart-wrenching...

LUCKILY, we are living in the year 2010, EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE! Everyone is allowed to be with anyone. So, IF you have been doubting whether you should confessed your love to him/her, I say, CONFESSED NOW!!!

OR YOU WOULD RATHER WAIT 30 YEARS???!!!

p/s : oh,ya... about the interesting story I mentioned in the previous post, this is not it... >.<

Break Out

Break Out - Tohoshinki's new song about facing their fears... Tohoshinki is one of the BEST boyband in ASIA! I don't care what you think...

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Anyway, I am not posting about the song... Recently I have been posting about MY own relationships, so, now... I am going to post about a REAL story which I heard from someone someone someone someone... Someone!

This guy... Well, let's call him "Super Mario"... Because he is a super amazing guy... A rare species...

Super Mario is from Indonesia and he looks like Chinese. But that is not the reason why he is super...

Super Mario has a girlfriend back in Indonesia. And he has been studying here for about 2 years? (If I remembered correctly). And all this time, he NEVER... I repeat, N-E-V-E-R flirt with other girls. And not because his friend told me so(Guys always lies for their "brothers"), it was because we hung out before. So, he is kind of a friend/acquaintance

plus minus...

Sure.. he talks to girls... but he never asked for a dance or asks for numbers AND always maintains a distance... He would just look around, enjoy the song and drink the whole night. Seriously. I have never met a guy who is so in love with his girlfriend the way Super Mario is with his girlfriend... And they have been together for a very long time. I hope, I get to meet this lucky girl someday... She must be very special because Super Mario is NOT an ugly dude, neither is he retarded. In fact, he is an ENGINEERING student who is quite good-looking. So, yeah, there is NOTHING wrong with him except he is VERY FAITHFUL. So, don't assume he is ugly just because he is FAITHFUL.

So, he is really SUPER, right?

I mean, his friends goes clubbing all the time, going out with girls, getting numbers... And all this while, he was never influenced... I guess... that, is true love...

AND remember, his girlfriend is BACK IN INDONESIA and they have NOT MET IN 2 YEARS!!!  

Is there anyone else like that or is he the only species?

Uncomplicated it

continued from previous post...

J thought that eventhough she was the official girlfriend, she is still the third one. So, she thought, at least she managed to save a friendship eventhough the relationship did not work out. Little did she know that the "friend" was not her friend at all.


After J broke up with Ass, he went out with K "in daylight" - okay, they officially went out together. After a few months, Ass got bored because he went out with ONLY ONE girl. Then he kept stalking J asking her to go back to him and that he had already broken up with K. J then consulted me, which resulted me scolding J for making such a bad choice.

I told her, "This kind of guy is worthless piece os sh*t and a useless cheater. He cheated twice and he can cheat you again. Plus, if you really is important to him, he would not have waited a few months to get you back. Even if he was not with K, he could cheat on you with another girl anyway."

J declined Ass but remained friends. Soon after, ugly monsters appeared. K hinted J to back off by "accidently" sending love e-mails/comments between her and Ass. K even deleted J from her friend list and does not see J as a friend. Ass was irritated that J did not accept him back, he started assaulting her with foul language. (see what happens when you reject a guy... -an ugly low self-esteem monster shows up with no manners)

J was no doubt upset but broke off all contacts with them. However, Ass is still not letting go.

ASSDonkey

# Yes, I know this is a one-sided story. I actually heard this story more than a month ago but decide to post now because I was trying to hear the other side of the story. Since K was avoiding me like a plague, I guess she is indeed guilty as charged. Plus, I have known K for 7 years, maybe less but about there. So, there is no reason to avoid me unless you have something to hide, right? #

IMHO: In the matter of fact, I think K purposely told J Ass's name (refer previous post), so that J will leave. Because J is the official girlfriend and Ass would not leave J, so she have to make J leave.

Complicated

Previously I had to many stories to listen to. Don't even know when or which to post. One of my friends did ask me when am I going to post her story. Well, this is it...
(it is quite long, so maybe I will divide it to two parts)

J went out with a guy from her same school. She was with him for almost a year. Everything was so good. One day, she went for a drink with a schoolmate, K. Talking about guys and so on. Suddenly, K mentioned her boyfriend's name. So, J thought, ok... Maybe that name is a common name, so it is not surprising if J's boyfriend and K's boyfriend  had the same name. So, J jokingly asked K if it is the same guy. Well...... there is no words to describe J's feelings when she realize that K's boyfriend IS HER BOYFRIEND!


J then broke up with the guy (let's call him Ass). Then she found out that K has been going out with that Ass before J. However, when K was going out with Ass, Ass was with another girl. So, NOBODY KNEW that K was going out with Ass. To be precise, Ass was cheating on the the first girl with K (the first one was that girl, second is K, third is J). And J found out about this AFTER she broke up with him. And how did she find out? From K's mouth... K PERSONALLY TOLD J about it. And all the while, J was taking the blame of ruining Ass's first relationship because nobody knew about K.

I seriously effing hate this muthaeffer. I am wondering how good looking he is. Seriously. Can you believe this shizz? Damn it. However, this is a one-sided story. Being on this side, I can help but feel infuriated. One guy playing with three girls. Shizzy eunuch.

Because J is the third, she decided to leave. Hurt and depressed. At least she managed to save a friendship. OR MAYBE NOT? Tell you in the next part.

When to let go?

Question : When is it time to let go? 

Here is a real life story...

*Serena been with her husband since secondary school. They have a daughter and she is currently pregnant again. However, the problem is her husband's infidelity. But she loves him too much to leave him. She met the third party and had a drink with the third party to have an adult conversation. There was no hair-pulling, face slapping, pour-water-on-each-other heated argument nor disagreement. The third party agreed to leave and not destroy her marriage.

Few weeks later, Serena saw her husband with the girl again. She has no choice but to separate them. But her efforts seem meaningless because no matter what she does, they always went back to each other. Even after she confronted her husband, her husband admitted he loved the girl and he wanted to keep both. 

Every time Serena's husband goes out, Serena would go out too. Her pre-schooled daughter followed her everywhere she goes and barely has any sleep. This has been going on for about 2 years. And now, she is pregnant AGAIN. Her last resort was to send his husband back to his hometown but she has some business to take care in her hometown.

*Not her real name.

IMHO : Serena MUST let go NOW.

Why?

Because she has fought for more than 2 years for that jerk. She did EVERYTHING she can to protect, to maintain, to restore her marriage. But her husband has yet to wake up from his "slumber", thinking the girl really loves him. She even have a 2nd child with him after he betrayed her. And as I said before, it takes TWO to work out a relationship, NOT one person alone or three. Now that Serena has TWO children to consider, more accurately, their FUTURE to consider. I'm sure they are not able to concentrate in their studies if they have to constantly move about and stay awake til wee hours in the morning or having to stay in Serena's friend's home. They are still young, Serena IS still young. What is there to lose if she leaves him? She has the ability to support her children AND herself. But if she don't leave him, not only she ruins her life, but also her children.

But she has been dating him for so many years, spend so much time in this relationship, not easy to leave...

What is EASY?? NOTHING is meant to be easy. But because of her children, she MUST leave. If...IF her husband values their relationship, he would not have done such things. I KNOW it is hard when so much affection and emotion was put into the relationship. I HAD ended a 4 year relationship, it was not easy, but I KNOW it was the best decision I MADE.

*having headache now, MUST SLEEP!!! anyway, this is a true story told from a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend of...so, there is no point figuring who it is...sorry if there is any grammar/spelling mistakes...*

So, what do you think??

Simon says...

My friend, Simon wrote something which contradicts to my beliefs and I wanted to leave a comment on his blog, but his comments were disabled and he was too "smart" to restore it. (I know I'm very bad lar, but I can not resist re-stating the misconception there).

For those of you who are too "hardworking" to click on the link, here's the summary of it.
Come to think of it, I shall not summarize it.

The feeling "love" is it really that powerful?
It can make someone crazy and forget everything around and themself?
Some of the people really too serious about love.
Love someone until don't know what are they doing and some even willing to die for love.
Love really is everything and more important than our life?
No...We shouldn't think this way...Some may said that no love then no life...
I think this sentence got a big problem.The biggest aim in love is happiness.
What it mean by this?
To see people around you and your love one to be happy.
The people you love not really need to be with you.
As long as your love one happy then your aim is done no matter he or she be with who.
I believe that most of the people wish their love one to be happy.
When you see them happy then you will happy along with them too...
It is not really the matter together or not...
What is the matter if the one u love doesn't accept your love?
You still can live on.You still have to go on with your life.Why should you feel suffer?
Why should u care of what he or she think?
Why do you want to care what is he or she want?
There are so many ways to continue your life.
Why should you choose the path which is hard to move on and lead to valley on lonelieness?
Just do whatever you want that can make you happy.
You live for your ownself, my friend....
Don't be stupid for someone who really don't care of you.

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Firstly, YES! THE FEELING OF LOVE IS POWERFUL! POWERFUL ENOUGH TO CHANGE WHO YOU ARE, TO CURE THE SOMEONE FROM ILLNESS.

WHY??

When you are in love, you are happy, you will forget that you are sick, and FAMILY LOVE is also LOVE and the most powerful LOVE in the world.

But when you are in love with a person, you can change from happy to an unhappy person or vice versa.

POWERFUL NOT???!!!

YES!! NO LOVE = NO LIFE. Urm...Hello? Without love, YOU ARE NOTHING! If it wasn't because your mother LOVED your father and vice versa, DO YOU THINK YOU CAN BE HERE?? NO!

You know why LOVE is not such a big problem to you? BECAUSE YOU HAVE NEVER LOVED.

If the person you "love", DOES NOT LOVE YOU, then it is not LOVE. Understood? It's called clapping your hands with one hand (loosely translated from a chinese saying) or rather known as one-sided affair.

Yes. you can live on. BECAUSE IT IS NOT LOVE! Because it is merely the person you like...NOT LOVE. If something so shallow as this can be considered as love, then LOVE itself brings no meaning anymore than just a word in a dictionary. LOVE is so many wonderful things BUT it is NOT HAPPINESS ALONE. If you expect being in love brings you only happiness, then you are either selfish or just...plain naive.

And why I say you are not in LOVE but like or an infatuation(regardless how long you liked her) because YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HER.

You don't know what makes her tick.

You don't know what upsets her.

You don't know how to make her happy.

You don't know what she wants.

YOU JUST DON'T KNOW HER.

It is true that you should not waste your time on someone who does not appreciate you, but NO ONE...

NO ONE CAN EVER LIVE WITHOUT LOVE.

Even monks live with God's love.

SO, HOW CAN YOU LIVE WITHOUT LOVE???

YOU had it tough??!! Think again...

THIS STORY IS ABOUT A FRIEND.
F is a primary school friend whom had lost contact with everyone of us(those from primary school).
Recently, he re-contacted us. And he had changed a lot!
Boy, I had never expected a friend to go through life with so much difficulties.

F is from a broken family. AND he became an anti-social. I guess he is just to shy to socialize.

For the past few years, his girlfriend was his family, his best friend, his soul mate... Well, she was EVERYTHING to him. And then, all of a sudden, she left him. Not for another guy, but to God. Yes... she passed away because of cancer.

And everyday, he would suddenly stop talking, and sit in a corner, feeling very down. Sometimes, he would smile to himself. But I felt heart-broken because a nice person like him had to go through this. I don't think I can even make it through a day without Max, and definitely not 2 years.

A month before his girlfriend died, he was still unaware of her condition. Well, I mean who would want the person you love, worry about your condition every minute of everyday? I understood why she hid it from him.

But ever since she passed away, he had been blaming himself for being a useless boyfriend because he did not realize her condition. He has been carrying this guilt for the past 2 years.

And as you know, I must "ke poh"(nosy), and gave him a lot of advice. It was not his fault that she did not want him to know right? And I told him to respect her decision, and she did it out of LOVE! If he were to continue blaming himself, how would she feel? If he continue to be unhappy because of this, how would she feel? I am not asking him to forget her, I am just asking him to let go of the guilt and be happy. At least, for her...

Now, he is happy around us now. And less emo. And he did change from the quiet emo to the talkative guy(still emo sometimes).

So, if you say that your girlfriend dumped you or your girlfriend is being unreasonable, I say SUCK IT UP!!! At least, she's alive right?

Without love, there is no life...

Yesterday I chatted with a friend. He was previously going after his ex, and they did become closer. Just when he thought they had a chance, he received an intimate SMS meant for another guy. What a nightmare... and he said, "I have never thought of being with another person other than her". And then, here is what he said...

Friend : My friend said 面包重过爱情 (which simply meant bread worth more than love)

Me : Your friend obviously had not loved before or he/she has been hurt badly and has never found another one whom he/she really loves.

Friend : Maybe.

Me : These hurt and pain will allow us to grow, to learn. Then only we could learn to treat someone better, to love someone more in the future.

Friend : I guess it is true. But I am not waiting for anyone. I don't want to get hurt anymore.

Me : Feelings are what makes us human. The day you stop loving/hating, is the day you are no longer human but an empty, cold body.

Friend : I guess so. You should publish a book with those lines.

And so, here I am... blogging about it...

Anyone who has loved before definitely has been hurt. Does it mean when we get hurt, we should give up on love and eat bread? What if the moment you gave up, and there is already someone standing in front of you? You would not have seen him/her...

IF you were given the chance, to re-do all over again, with the one person you love, wouldn't you take the chance and hoped you did something right, and everything turned out to be a happy ending?

or... would you just give up the chance and say, " I do not want to get hurt anymore".

Because if you are such a coward, and not willing to get hurt, don't fall in love. And never leave your home. Because if you do, you might fall down and get hurt. Or you might be pushed and got hurt. But at home, the fan from the ceiling might fall and crush you, or there's a short circuit, and you might get electrocuted... ooh, oh...! Maybe you should just stay in a small room at a corner...

Life does not end when you get hurt. Life ends when you can no longer love.

Love is in the air!

I am so happy and excited at the same times because my friend is going to get engaged this coming august. Yay!!! Three cheers ~~
Hiphip hurray! Hiphip hurray! Hiphip hurray!!

Love is in the air...
Whenever I look around...



To ky and xx,

I am so happy for you. Don't ever take each other for granted.
All the best and may God bless you. - you guys are so cute together...

P/S : I want pictures of the engagement, okay???

He/she is just not that into you..

I realized that many people take things for granted. Even when they have the best in life.

Story A
My friend, Y which I mentioned in the earlier post. She had a wonderful boyfriend who loves her more than himself. But, NO! She did not want him. She wants a sweet talker, someone fresh... THE GUY DON'T EVEN HAVE ANY TEETH!(okay, I exaggerated, one of his tooth fell off -fuglyyy). He is not cute-looking or has any future. And of course, the main strategy in going after girls is to be really nice to the girl. (D-U-H!!) So, of course he is nice to her.

The truth is, I don't really like the guy. Maybe because I was hoping that she would get back with K. Even after they broke up, K was always there for her. He still brings her lunch. He is really good to her. I mean... WTF is wrong with you??!! omg! How I wish to slap some sense into her thick head. Which is why I said, people take things/ people for granted. Perhaps when history repeats itself, then and only then... would she realize who is really good to her. GROW UP, PLEASE!!!

This new guy did not even realize she was sick and brought her to some mamak stall for dinner where all his GUY friends are. ALL GUYS. Obviously, he was showing off. Lame lame... A newbie could have done better than that! When will she wake up??!! And she won't listen to any of our advice. Her previous ex(who was before K) was always saying she was old and ugly. When HE was d fugly one. He did not care about her and spread bad rumours about her when they broke up. Again... WTF is wrong with you???!!! Wake up now! before its too late...

And then I realize people are sometimes really dumb. But all in the name of LOVE. which is one-sided

Story B
Another story is an acquaintace was going after a girl who works close to his workplace. And he bought her a $200 perfume. Come on... If the girl likes you, you would only need to buy $20 gift. Don't be silly. And he said that she gave it back to him. Hello??!! IS THIS YOUR FIRST DAY ON EARTH??!! Of course she'll need to act a little shy and reject the gift. It is a basic skill. But she accepted the gift eventually but not the guy. Put the puzzle together, man!

I've got to go chill myself off. Have been mixing with blur people lately... sigh...

Don't judge a book by it's cover... Don't judge a girl by her appearance...

PART II

I missed out a part about Z who told J that L tried to rape her( if the guy tries to rape you, and you're still with the guy? Unless you enjoy being raped!- don't take everyone for an idiot just because L is an idiot). J was trying to be a friend, gave her some advice, which was the cause of the nuisance(it was when Z started professing to J). After J asked Z to choose between him and L, Z said she loved both and she wanted both of them. I was furious. How can she say that?! How is it possible for a heart to love TWO person at once?! After that, J kept pressuring Z to make her choice. Finally, J's girlfriend could not stand Z anymore, went to look for Z at her house(together with J). Then, J's girlfriend asked what is the matter with her? What is her problem?

Z was smart enough to call L for help(probably because she knew L was a dumb@$$??). Anyway, L arrived at Z place being furious and kept protecting her(bluedy dumb@$$!). He said that he can hate everyone but not Z. And he called me, asking why didn't I call off "THE TEST"??(*remember!* HE AGREED TO TEST Z) He only said he did not want to pretend to be J and ask her questions but he DID NOT say that he did not want to test her. Everything was such a mess. J was angry with me(because of the test tingy). And after all the trouble she caused, Z manage to LAUGH! With her sly wicked grin of a devil's pawn. However, Z and L was still together. J and his girlfriend did not hear from Z again.

happy ending...

uh...? NO WAY!!

A few weeks after that, Z messaged J and asked him to be "FRIENDS". And then, Z and L was no longer together. Z moved on... guess with who?? (obviously another dumb@$$-lah!!) The guy was L's CLOSE FRIEND!!!! Why is the guy a dumb@$$? Firstly, he goes out with his CLOSE FRIEND'S old worn-out shoe(ex-girlfriend). Secondly, he ignored ALL the advice from his friend(excluding me, I don't know him well, but I sure do know that he is an idiot). After a few months, Z left that idiot for God-knows-who. And those TWO dumb@$$e$ can blame themselves for their loss!

the end...

Oh,wait... The moral of the story is : DON'T BE LIKE THOSE TWO DUMB@$$E$!! and DON'T JUDGE A GIRL BY HER LOOKS... :)

Don't judge a book by it's cover... Don't judge a girl by her appearance...

I've met girls who looked innocent, quiet and sweet but deep down, is filled with evil which is comparable with the devil's pawns(maybe they are the devil's pawns afterall). Girls who would do anything to break up other people's relationship, girls who would offer anything just to win or show that they are superior, girls who spoil the name of love. These girls gives me the creeps because you can never know what are they up to or their motives. Let's just say I've met some of them, and this story is about one of them.

A new girl,Z has been transfered from another state to our school. She looks pretty and innocent(or pretty innocent, I should say...). However, the first day I met her, I did not like her at all. I could not explain why but I just didn't like her. And I felt guilty because she did not do anything to me. At the end of the year, she and a friend of mine,L (whom I've known for 13 years) started seeing each other. Everyone was so happy to see the new couple, including me.

However, this love story did not last. L was having problems with Z's ex-boyfriend. According to Z, the ex-boyfriend would not leave her alone. And Z just simply left the sh*t behind for L to pick. So, L called her ex-boyfriend,ya da ya da and solved the problem. A couple of weeks later, another problem came up. My friend, J's girlfriend told me that Z confessed that she has feelings for J. So, J's girlfriend asked for my help. I talked to J and realised that J does not have feelings for Z, so I advised J to stop contacting Z to save his relationship(J really loved his girlfriend). The next day, J told me that Z would not stop contacting him, repeatedly telling him how much she loved him. So I have no choice but to tell L. I was surprised when L told me that he knew about Z and J. But he was told a different story. He was told J would not stop telling Z that he loved her, and Z being the "nice" girl did not want to ruin the friendship, decided to keep quiet. I showed L the messages Z had sent to J. And asked L if it is alright to test Z. AND HE AGREED!(remember that he agreed to test Z, which I would explain later as to why it is important to remember this)

The next few days, Z still kept contacting J. So, I borrowed J's phone to let L message or ask Z anything he want to know by pretending to be J. After thinking for awhile, he said he did not want to betray her by not trusting her. I was stunned. How could someone be so stupid after knowing that his girlfriend is flirting with SOMEONE ELSE'S BOYFRIEND??!! By doing so, he is not only indirectly encouraging her to cheat, and break up other people's relationship but also tarnish the name of LOVE!!! This is not LOVE! This is you being afraid to be left alone! LOVE IS NOT MEANT TO BE SHARED WITH ANOTHER PEOPLE BUT WITH EACH OTHER! I was so pissed. So, I told J to test Z by asking her to choose between J and L(with J's girlfriend's approval).




......to be continued......

Illegal Publication...

DISCLAIMER : I DO NOT OWN THIS STORY.
This story is published without permission...*sssh...

Y is a friends of mine. She dated K for about a year. I totally approve of K and feels that he is the best among her previous boyfriends. However, among them there exists a gap. Y loves freedom whereas K is the total opposite. K wants to be with Y all the time. Y feels like she was suffocating. And finally Y felt there was nothing she can do to close the gap and broke off with K. You see, K is from a broken family and has no successful future to look forward to. Y is all K has. Even after the break up K kept pestering Y for time and chance. To which, of course, only made Y felt more frustrated.

My hypothesis is this (starting from the beginning of the relationship) : Y and K has communication gap from the beginning of the relationship due to the difference of social and education level. K is obsessed with Y whereas Y needs her own space and privacy. K did not understand Y's needs and Y did not know how to explain to K. Soon, problems were left unsolved, everything kept piling up and argument became endless. Then, the relationship becomes a habit rather than a spontaneous,exciting love relationship (eg: breakfast,lunch and dinner together, then good night messages).

The problem with K is:-
1) he is too obsessed with Y (calling probably 10 times AN HOUR).
2) he did not understand that Y needs her own space regardless the number of times she told him.
3) he has a super low self-esteem
4) overprotective and has trust issues (calls Y a million times to make sure that she is not with someone else)

But K has good traits too which I think Y has overlooked (compared to her previous)
K literally supports her financially, making sure she has enough money for shopping and good food.
K does not hurt her and listens to most of her advice (orders) and he seriously is in love with her and treats her like a princess.

The problem with Y is:-
1) she did not realize that being in a relationships means she has to make sacrifices (time and freedom)-there is no possible way that she can have her single lifestyles hanging out with friends all the time.
2) not willing to sacrifice
3) was not able to see from K's point of view
4) forgotten how she was treated by her previous boyfriends. (1st, a useless sissy loser, 2nd a rich @$$ who gave her "a lot of freedom"-rarely cared about her)
But she REALLY was sincere with him. And wants him to improve. But does HE want to improve? Did she ask what he wanted? Does she understand his needs instead?

I really wanted to mend their relationship because what they had was real. Not rebound relationship or one-minute-fad. It was the problems they had made the sparks fade. Made their love fade(or her love fade). But until they realize this and solve it there is nothing else an outsider can do but provide a listening ear and a little point of view.

My point is, everyone has their own weaknesses, needs. Learn to see from the other point of view. Put yourself in their shoes. Learn to sacrifice even if YOU are the one who sacrificed more. And relationship will improve. That is IF, YOU TRULY LOVE SOMEBODY. may true love survive... gambateh for LOVE!