Honestly, freedom is a luxury. Especially when you are in a relationship. But then again, how much freedom are we entitled to?
When we were younger, we had no freedom because our parents protected us like a precious treasure. Putting a force-field shield around us. We could only move around in certain perimeters.
Later, when we were growing up to be adolescent, we were granted a little freedom. We get to attend school, make more friends and go to malls. But then again, it is within certain perimeters.
What is LITTLE freedom? What is a lot? How much is a lot enough to satisfy your need to be free?
BUT!
Did you know that asking for freedom is asking to be cared less?
When we had no freedom, it is because our parents cared so much for us, thus having built those shield around us. When we had a little freedom, our parents had to care less, to let us learn our own mistakes, to let us grow on our own, thus, we had less care.
THE POINT IS : When you ask for freedom, freedom is what you get. But you will lose the care of the one you love. Slowly...but surely... Because as time goes, the person will no longer care for you, for that is truly granting you TOTAL freedom.
So, if it was you, what would you have chosen?
TO BE CARED FOR or TO BE FREE?
If you want to be free, there is no point being in a relationship. Do not make commitments. Because that is what some people call "an open relationship" which is equivalent to being friends with some "advantages".
You can have both actually but depends whether that freedom will hurt your partner or not.
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If in relationship . I can have freedom to do my hobby.photography. swimming. go gym. This may not hurt the other half.
Example 2 :
If in relationship. But go to clubs meet random girls. Go dating with other girls.
So which sample freedom that you think is acceptable and which is not ?
ReplyDeleteDifferent people have different views on what is called "freedom"...
ReplyDeleteFor some guys, freedom to go gym, do hobby, etc. is not enough to be considered as freedom.
For some girls, freedom for their boyfriend to meet & date other girls is acceptable to them. {YES, I MET THAT KIND OF GIRL, D GUY SHOULD FEEL LUCKY, BUT HE DON'T}-weird right?
Anyway, the thing is when you get some or a lot of freedom, one thing is for sure, YOU WILL LOSE "CARE".
Lose how much care is depending on the person who is giving you freedom.
Like when you go to gym, your partner have to NOT CARE that you go to gym or do your hobby so that it will not interfere with what you do, yes?
Like in example 2: you lose a lot of "CARE" from your partner since you are allowed to have extra freedom to date.
So, my answer to your question is not which I THINK is acceptable, it should be which YOUR PARTNER THINKS acceptable.
"Are these answering your questions?"
So have you discuss with the partner what is acceptable ? then just THINK what is acceptable ?
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