Search This Blog



Marriage: Are You Ready?

Recently, a very close friend of mine got married. 

It was really lovely and beautifully decorated, even the table arrangements were very thoughtful as it was close to the stage and we don't need to entertain strangers.

There was a lovely video of how they got engaged and their gorgeous wedding pictures. I am really happy for him. He was always so mischievous and cheeky in a playful way, it is great that he finally settled down. I wish him a long and happy marriage ahead!

But on a related note, back to the topic everyone always asks, Are You Ready For Marriage?

If you think that love is all you need for a marriage to work, trust me, you are being really naive. Because Marriage =/= Wedding. A wedding could be as grand as a palace ball but it does not mean that your marriage would last til death do you part.

Firstly, ask yourself, why would you want this? Why do you want to be married? 
- To be with the one you love for the rest of your life
- Because you love them
- Because you want to strengthen the relationship
- Family/peer pressure
- Age, it is just time to settle down
- You want to have a family

Image result for unhappy marriage

If your answer is anything but the last reason, then you may want to reconsider your choice. Why would a piece of paper stop you from being with the one you love? Does that mean without marriage, you can't be with them? If you expect that a piece of paper could change your life, then perhaps, you might want to reconsider the strength of your relationship.

If you want to marry, make sure that the choice is only because of both of you, not because your family wants it so. Because at the end of the day, it is you who would be spending your life with him/her.

With that said, a marriage is not ONLY about TWO persons in love. It also involves his/her family too. You can't turn your back from his/her family because they ARE your family now. And definitely, do not use age as an excuse to get married.

As we grow older, we tend to expedite the process of courtship, to dating, to marriage because the older you get, the harder it is to build a family. But, how well do you know your partner? Because of the expedited process, some may get married after 2-3 years of dating. In mere 2-3 years, and you have decided that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Do you really accept your significant other as they are? Or do you just hope he/she will change and adapt to the married life?

Image result for marriage

If all these still haven't helped in your decision-making, consider this:-
1. Accept your significant other, do not expect him to change for you
2. Go for a week long holiday in a foreign place, just the two of you... It will show how you work as a team, how to handle unexpected situations, how you resolve a problem together and what is it like living together. True colours will show.
3. Does your family like him/her? Does his/her family like you? If the answer is no to either one, take time to make things work, it will make your marriage easier in the future. No in-laws problem.
4. Are you willing to sacrifice anything from any part of you or your life? Could you sacrifice time to take care of your one month old baby while she get some rest? Would you be able to sacrifice buddy drinking/happy hour time?
5. Last but not least, can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person regardless of bad or good?


Image result for marriage

With that said, those who are married, please know that marriage is not easy. It would always be more convenient to find an easy way out. But keep in mind, it was YOUR choice to spend YOUR life with the person YOU chose.

Always think from another person's shoes. It may not always be what it seems. You may think you are sacrificing everything but maybe your other half have been suffering in silence.



Krabi : First Trip with the Kareshi!

On the 23rd January 2014, we went to G.E.M's concert in Stadium Putra, Bukit Jalil. 

And of course, how can we miss this awesome show without Elephantbaby and Nelle?


The next day, KRABI, here we are!!!! *excited*


Ok, I am lazy and tired. The rest of the post consists of picturesque views and good food with great company. I had the most wonderful time of my life.

Our stay in Beyond Resort Krabi was one of the best hotel I've ever stayed in. They even have their own private beach.
(I am comparing this to one of the 5 star hotel I've stayed in Orchard Road, Singapore)

Our complimentary welcome drinks.

Their staffs were friendly and their services were first class.
When Nelle told them it was our anniversary, they sent a fruit cake to each of our rooms.

And it was absolutely delicious!!! One of the best things I've eaten for free. And they say that the best things in life don't come for free, IT IS A LIE!

We went to one of the best sunset dining in Ao Nang, Krabi, The Hilltop.
The view was mesmerising. But the company was what made the experience such a memorable one.




Of course, what would the trip to Krabi be without visiting the islands and swimming with the fishes.



Our daily activities in the evening consists of food, food, massages and food.
(Banana + nutella pancakes everyday, ftw!)

We did some kayaking outside of Beyond Resort.

Just "some". Kayaking. Outside of Beyond Resort. Literally.

 And the best part about Krabi is FOOD!!!!

Actual Ao Nang boat noodles. Not those gimmicks with 1 scoop of noodle in your bowl (so little until don't know want to put where) and you stack shitloads of bowl to take pictures.

Another memorable moment was when we had our massage by the beach. It was so relaxing, I fell asleep while having our head "massad". It was shooooo guuuuddd~~~

I watched many sunsets in Krabi. I really love this place and since it is the first trip with the kareshi, it makes the experience much more special.

Our last night in Krabi was spent having dinner by the beach with a tower of seafood and so much food that I could feel like I gained another 10kgs.

Yeap. That's a pig on the kareshi's tummy.

 BOOHOO!!! The day we check out and say bye-bye Krabi! (But I don't wanna....................) 

Breakfast with sea breeze and the beautiful view.

Nelle's super healthy breakfast.

As usual, no breakfast is complete without fats and bacon for me.

Bye-bye Beyond Resort. I will never forget the experience you gave me.

Well, back to real life and work. wuwuwuwuw~~~

Btw, I can't thank Nelle enough so I'm gonna just post this here. Nelle is god-given angel to us. She planned the entire trip. She is the reason why our whole trip was so oriented. She is like a professional tour guide. If you feel seasick, Nelle has the cure. If you feel sick, Nelle has the paracetamol. Nelle has sunblock, vitamin C and aloe vera for after sun. Anything you need, you name it, she has it. Thank you, God for bringing Nelle to us.

Oh, another thing is my new toy from the kareshi.

My early birthday pressie and valentine's gift. And it is not even February yet.